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Helping Your Man (and Men in General)
with Beauty & Fashion Without Offending Him
If the guy in your life thinks that the height of
fashion is a sweatshirt without a beer logo on the
front, you may be facing some challenges when it
comes to taking him to parties or other special
events. And the fact is, even a man who’s smart
and funny and kind, perfect in every other way,
can sometimes use a little update in his wardrobe.
Unfortunately, sometimes men can be sensitive
about being asked to change their physical
appearance, even if it just means wearing a
different shirt. Face it: you can lead with gentle
encouragement or try to make him do it your way.
If you’ve been around a man for more than five
minutes, you probably know what works best! Follow
these tips to help your guy look his best –
without hurting his feelings or his pride.
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Every Man Needs At Least One Classic Pair of
of being a grown-up means wearing good shoes: not
tennis shoes, or the hippest new thing, but shoes
made of leather, with laces instead of Velcro.
Shoes that sometimes even get polished. If you
work outside the home, be aware that people who
deal with you at work notice your shoes and make
judgments about you based on what they see. A
ratty pair of old men’s loafers, worn-out heels or
soles, negatively affect your image. People have
lost promotions and even love by ignoring the
importance of footwear.
But it's tougher than ever to find good shoes at
the local shopping center, where the focus is
usually on cheap shoes made to last the season but
no more. Good support, quality leather and fine
stitching can't be bought at the local Payless!
But through the magic of online shopping, you can
buy a good pair of classic men's shoes with just a
See a selection of classic men’s shoes that will
coordinate with any basic wardrobe.
- Buy a nail brush and put it beside the sink.
(and gals) get their hands dirty, and a nail brush
- Slow down the shave to save your skin.
Most guys shave like they’re
trying to get away with a crime. They look in the
mirror as little as possible, and so they hack
themselves to pieces. They don’t change the blade
often enough (or the razor in the case of
disposables), they don’t soften the beard
adequately, they fail to lather up nicely, they
shave against the direction of the hair, and they
rush. Shaving habits form in the late teens, and
most men don’t see the reason for changing them.
You can try asking him to slow down, implying that
when he takes his time, his face is smoother and
more fun to kiss. Wait for his current can of
99-cent cream to run out and replace it with good
shaving cream. If he asks why you changed his
brand, don’t say, “because it made you smell like
my grandfather and stuck to the sink like glue,”
tell him the new stuff is supposed to be good for
- Get him a decent haircut (they will use scissors).
It may mean getting him
a gift certificate to a great salon to start with
and honest compliments afterwards. If you like him
in short hair, let him know his neck is sexy. (And
if he has dandruff, keep buying him shampoos until
you find one that works.)
- Don’t throw things away from his wardrobe, (that’s
disrespectful, and men have favorites just like
Just keep adding new clothes until he
runs out of room and throws stuff away on his own.
- If his is ratty, buy him new underwear.
to change him from boxers to briefs or vice-versa.
There are boxer men and there are brief men, and
lately, there are boxer-brief men too. Once a man
chooses his style, he has made a lifelong
commitment to something he can rely on. If his
shorts drive you crazy, you may buy him one of the
opposing styles for Valentine’s Day or an
anniversary, but it should be presented as a gag
gift, not as a seriously considered one. Buy it
decorated or in a crazy color, or in silk, so he
knows you are not (God forbid) trying to change
- Buy him new jeans exactly like the ones he
The only difference is that the
ones you buy won’t be stained or ripped. Again,
don’t “replace” anything: just give him the option
of wearing something new that’s exactly like his
old one (only, it’s new).
- Whenever possible, match what he already wears,
with slight, continual upgrades in fabric, quality
If you get him a shirt or sweater that
doesn’t match something he already has, tell him,
“I saw this and thought you’d look sexy in it.”
Men are no fools, and will try almost anything to
look sexy to women.
- Buy him nice pajamas. Too many men go through life
with only the feel of denim and flannel,
broadcloth and wool suiting.
Buy your guy silk pjs,
or a fabulous robe (men and women are alike in
this habit: there are people who wear robes and
people who think of robes as the things that hang
on the bathroom hook. If here’s a robe-wearer, buy
him a plush robe. Otherwise, save your money).
- Get him some color.
Lots of men fear color and
avoid it. Manufacturers know this, so the majority
of off-the-rack menswear comes in various shades
of gray and brown. Add bright things to his
wardrobe little-by-little to keep him from going
into shock. Start with things that match his eyes
(and point out that they do). Add bright colors in
details, like socks, ties and scarves. Ask him if
he’d consider wearing shirts that are pink, yellow
or lavender, and if he says yes, buy one and see
if he wears it.
- Don’t even try to get a man to wear scent if he
doesn’t already do it.
Like the underwear
question, this is a decision a man makes early in
life, and it seems to be connected to his sense of
himself as a sexual being. Frankly, many straight
men think that cologne/aftershave calls into
question their heterosexuality. Many men, straight
and gay, believe that a man should only smell of
man-smells, and while most women would call that
rank (pardon the pun) arrogance, so many otherwise
perfectly nice men refuse to anoint their bodies
with oils, all we can do is shrug and give in.
- If he looks like a slob and is utterly, stubbornly
refusing to make even the smallest change, switch
to psychological warfare.
Most men are horrified
at the idea of being called a girl, so much so
that they don’t think logically when a woman says,
“Geez, I just thought you’d like a shirt that
doesn’t make you look like a mushroom: you don’t
have to act like such a girl.” This should only be
used with men who are not being reasonable to
start with, as it relies on their fear of being “a
girl” and not on any other rational basis. By
calling a man a “girl”, you can often get him to
do things he would never consider doing otherwise,
but you are also being manipulative and a little
bit mean. Then again, a slob who refuses to change
but expects you to put up with him probably needs
a good psychological kick in the ole’ boxers –
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